On today's program, we talk about living a life with positivity. While at first glance it could appear to be simplistic or pollyanna, it's not. It's about choosing a "No Drama Zone" void of posers, wackos and energy vampires.
Tammy and I have found that taking a few simple steps of "guarding our space" can lead to a much more peaceful, powerful and positive place to live. Just remember: it's a choice.
We hope you'll enjoy. We also would love to hear from you. Send your thoughts/suggestions to daveandtammytour at gmail.
Thanks, now on with the show!
Until next time, remember...
SOUNDS EASY, RIGHT?
As long as I can remember, I've been a daydreamer. As a young boy, playing in the backyard of my Lynchburg home ... As a teen, playing in the woods with my neighborhood pals ... As a young adult, playing music on the radio as an announcer ... As an adult, playing alongside actors in a film ... And now, as a maturing adult, crafting stories out of thin air, about people and places and all the mystical places in between...
And from those dreams have come an enormous amount of success.
My first dream was to be an artist. So, I began sketching as a child, turning those sketches into paintings, until one day, I began to sell those paintings. To date, I've sold works in every city in which I've lived, to include: Va Beach, Detroit, Chicago, LA, New York, Philadelphia, and Charlotte. I suppose I best get busy if I'm to sell my work in Encinitas!
My next dream was to be a big-time radio host. So, I began practicing in the shower, while walking to school, driving my car on the way to work, until one day I walked into a radio station and demanded the worst shift on the worst day when no one was listening. I got the job. That determination let to a bigger station, then a bigger, and then a bigger market, and then an even bigger market, until one day, I landed at the very top, and a "Morning Radio Host in New York City." Note: my goal, at age 15, was to perform on at least five of the Top 10 Markets before I turned 40. I hit the top 5 ... by 38!
My next dream was to make a film. So, I began practicing by writing little "short scripts" about things that interested me. Note: My first screenplay draft was something like 210 pages. It eventually became 98.
The first story was about an elderly couple searching for the fountain of youth. It is a dark thriller where nothing was as it seemed. REWIND
The next short was about a therapist who helped his patients with their insecurities. It is a romantic comedy where the patients were animals and the doctor a bachelor. POKE THE SLEEPING BEAR
The next short was about twin brothers who were completely opposite, yet desired the same thing. It is a dark comedy about trust and murder. TAKE TWO
From there, I set my sights on a full-length feature. My first attempt, while thoroughly original from the standpoint that we wrote, cast, shot, edited, scored, and finished a feature film in just 30 days. It is a dramatic fable about a man who visits a passport office, looking for the next adventure; it results in a mysterious ending that leaves you breathless. THE LAST PASSPORT
My next dream was to write a book. So, I began reading about how to write a book, how to self-publish (as I was certain no one would buy my first attempt). I figured it would be smart to write about something I knew about. I chose: growing up in a super-strict, faith-based home in the conservative south where life is black and white and leaves no room for the gray.
After realizing I had a knack for writing, I tried to do a sequel, a year later. And it worked. After coming to the realization that "family stories" weren't really my cup of tea, I took the main character, Carter Matheson, and spun his life into a big, bold military-themed thriller where he worked as a retired Special Ops Sniper-For-Hire.
I turned that dream into three novels: LUCKY STRIKES, BEHIND THE 8 BALL, and late last year, KNUCKLE DOWN. Note: LS and BT8B were written during the NaNoWriMo Contest (Goal: a minimum of 50,000 words in 30 days).
This quickly became, and continues to be my life passion. I love creating people and places with unique names and faces, while creating mysteries and thrillers, full of heroes and killers.
My next dream was to imagine: What if I take my two favorite passions of films & books and make a film from one of my books. The book Discovering Grace, a family thriller about redemption and the power of forgiveness became the film Chasing Grace.
Was it a success? You bet. We sold the film in late 2016 to Word Entertainment, and today you can see it on Pureflix, Hallmark's Feeln, and on DVD in family bookstores, and on Amazon.com.
While I don't mean to brag, I DO mean to say this: If you can dream it, you can have it. We're all given the same 24 hours in a day, the same 7 days in a week. So, stop bullshitting yourself about how my dreams are too big and unachievable.
Instead, make reachable goals, one at a time, put them into motion, be diligent about seeing that you "water the seeds of dreams" everyday, push through the obstacles of doubt, fear, lack of faith or hope, and practice the mantra: All Things Are Possible With Focus & Work.
I've never really thought any other way ... than to believe that I could have it, IF I were willing to put in the time.
To this day, my gut reminds me of this: If I'm going to spend the time dedicating myself to a craft, and every single opportunity is possible, then why not dream as big as I can, reaching as high as I can, while believing it will come to me.
Just remember: No One Will Do It For You. Only YOU Know Your Dreams.
In closing, I encourage you to take the graphic above that I made to remind myself and you:
Be brave. Reach high.
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Today's blog and podcast features LINDSAY BROWN, the architect and one of two master minds behind THE BROWN STUDIO. The studio was established by husband and wife team, Lindsay & Rory Brown in 2006.
Lindsay began his career in architecture at the age of 16 and has since worked continuously to define a building type and object sensitivity of distinct clarity. He graduated from The University of Oklahoma’s School of Architecture, while Rory graduated with an Environmental Study’s degree from UC Santa Cruz. Rory couldn't be with us today, but will appear on a future show.
Got an extra six minutes? Here's a video I directed, produced and edited while working with DWELL Magazine, around the time when Tammy and I first met Lindsay & Rory.
BIG THANKS to Lindsay & Rory for being such solid friends, with big hearts, endless love and massive talent. D+T are lucky to call you friends!
I leave you with a sweet pic of the latest addition, Miss Lilien, named after the first woman architect in California. How cool is that?
A: I've written several thousand words. Here's just one excerpt from the murder mystery I'm working. The working title is SEDUCTION AT DAYBREAK.
B: I got to meet a favorite author, DON WINSLOW, at Warwick's Bookstore, and listen to his methods and stories, while receiving great advice and solid encouragement. Tammy and I really enjoyed ourselves. Here's a picture and links to his latest novel, THE FORCE (it's Fn Awesome).
C: I recorded a fun podcast with my PIC & WE, Tammy. It will air shortly. It's a show about DESIGN and we're talking with our good friend and client, LINDSAY BROWN of The Brown Studio.
D: I reached some new goals in my workout; gained some pounds on the rack, increased some reps in my ab work, and cranked several more miles on the bike this week.
E: Plus, I've had lots of laughs, tons of great conversations and deepening love with my girl. Read: Best Part Of The Week.
And the more I come from a place of gratitude and simply don't welcome negative energy of the past, or ignore friends who won't play fair, or disregard people who don't honor their word, or if I find a lack of integrity in people/businesses/situations ... well, the better off I am without such.
Have a great Wednesday. Smile at a stranger. Hug someone who is sad. Call an old friend. Writer a parent. Love your neighbor.
I LEAVE YOU WITH MY FAVORITE INSTAGRAM POST OF THE PAST SEVERAL WEEKS:
Thank you, Tammy, for sharing this quote and your life with me.
On today's Dave + Tammy Tour Podcast, it's a FLASHBACK FRIDAY, as we walk down memory lane recalling our time spent in Manhattan.
As you must know by now, Tammy & I love good food, splashy cocktails, exceptional design and any sort of travel.
We also enjoy supporting local businesses, and in today's show you get to visit as we revisit many of our favorite stomping grounds. Places for food like:
There are also so many great cosmopolitan adventures to enjoy like:
If you've never been to New York City, or are thinking about visiting--like our friends Eric & Summer Gilmer (dasMOD), then you'll definitely want to catch today's show in order to find some of the places tucked away and off the beaten path, where you can...
There's something for everyone in New York, one of the greatest cities in America!
Special Thanks to our recording studio engineer, Dexter, for hooking up the "good microphones" for today's show; you can really hear & feel the difference!
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Now, kick back and enjoy the show!
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Well, on today's show you will. Sorta.
As one of the top VO Guys in America, Mark Maurer is a Radio & TV Station Imaging Voice for stations all across the country.
We've been pals for a very long time, and although I hadn't seen him in nearly three decades--that is until today thanks to Skype, we've kept in touch over the years.
He's funny, full of stories, and just a little bit crazy (which is why I love this guy), please welcome Mark Maurer.
*Note: There are moments of Rated-R language.
On today's blog (recorded this past Saturday), Tammy & I share some highlights of this past week. Her son Jake got married to the lovely Renee. Pictures are forthcoming.
Dexter, my four-legged companion of nearly 8 years saw the beach for the first time, and given it Pebble Beach, his inauguration was quite perfect.
We enjoyed a road-trip along HIGHWAY 1, one of America's most beautiful stretches of coastline.
And we experienced a delightful overnight stay at the CYPRUS INN, Doris Day's "pet-friendly, luxurious boutique hotel." Next time you're in Carmel, make it your overnight stop.
Pull up a chair, get comfortable and enjoy a short ride that's long on happy memories.
Just a piece of business. Please note we're working diligently to improve the consistency of audio in our show. You'll see what I mean when you listen to this show on the PODCAST page. In the meantime, enjoy watching the video here.
The day has come for me to CALL BULLSHIT on people who:
Yup, I'm sick and freakin' exhausted of people who troll Facebook with nothing but happy-go-lucky emoticon smileys and Instagram-enhanced photos of their pseudo-enlightened and marginally-upbeat, but majestically-dysfunctional and sadly-twisted reflections of a pure self-tortured angst, only to call themselves "enlightened" while breaking up a supposed long-term friendship on the same Social Media Franchise.
Maybe there are people who revel in false living...Fakebook postings...and other hollow representations of happy lives.
As for me and my house, we will be true to squash any bullshit we encounter.
About now, you may be wondering: is Dave mad? Angry at someone? Perhaps pissed off at the world? Did someone piss in his cornflakes this morning? Step on his toe? Turn him down for a job? Tell him to F-off? No.
Actually, none of the above.
In fact, I am the happiest I've ever been. Truly.
I have the love of my life in Tammy, a super sweet, well-trained dog in Dexter, a (predominantly) happy and (mostly) healthy family, a super chill pad in which to live, in one of the coolest towns on the planet, in an environment and climate that's heaven sent, surrounded by some pretty hip and relatively grounded people. Plus, I have my health to boot!
It's just that I am 100% tired of people who are full of bullshit. People who say one thing but never deliver.
And you know who you are. If you're feeling a twang of guilt (read it as self-realization; the other kind), then you're probably full of bullshit.
Oh, and before you think I'm high-and-mighty, or think I'm better-than-thou, I can openly and honestly confess that in the past I was full of bullshit for many years, facing many people, serving a multitude of jobs, while dishing up big, steaming piles of oven-roasted bullshit. Yup, I was educated so much that you could say I had a BS in BS!
But no longer. Nope. Nada. Zilch.
That's right. If you'd like us to be friends, if you'd like to reach out to me, or if you'd like me to reach out to you, and you'd enjoy continuing or building a long, healthy run of friendship, then COUNT ME IN.
But if you're here to say one thing, but do another? See ya, wouldn't want to be ya.
Today's Guest Blogger is one-half of the World Famous Dave + Tammy Tour Podcast. She is currently a Business Development Guru & Marketing Specialist, a former Dwell Magazine Exec, as well as my best friend, side-kick and "wife equivalent" ... Please welcome, Tammy Scott.
It’s ever so much more satisfying to get into a blissful place and attract a blissful person and live blissfully hereafter than to be in a negative place and attract a negative partner and then try to get happy from that negative place. -Abraham
This quote defines today’s podcast.
Prior to moving to NYC, I had a pretty happy existence. A home on SF Bay in Marin, great relationships with my son and family, solid friendships and a satisfying career, but hardly blissful. Within 30-days of first being introduced to David in NYC, I was back working in Manhattan when I was overcome by an unexplainable feeling. As if someone reached inside my head and turned on a light switch, every cell in my body told me I needed to be in NY.
It wasn’t rational nor consistent with how I operated. This indescribable, “knowing” was met with surprising and resounding support from my son and family. With their encouragement and a job promotion to boot, I found myself living in mid-town Manhattan a mere 45-days later.
At the same time, David was experiencing his own shift in Charlotte. Although surrounded by family and a few good friends, David’s life was, hardly blissful. Filled with dead-end relationships both personally and professionally, he struggled to find clear direction about how to move into the next phase of his life. Enter Kelly Rehborg.
Kelly was a friend and client and just so happened to be a Feng Shui and energy expert. You will hear today how Kelly flew into David’s life, helped him remove years of dead weight and bad energy, clearing the path to creating a peaceful, harmonious life and ultimately finding the love of his life.
David and I also reminisce with Kelly about our serendipitous meetings, our courtship between NYC and Charlotte and the unfolding of our old fashion love story with a very modern day twist.
I close on my favorite quote that speaks to the very core of our love for one another. Enjoy!
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth you owe me. Look what happens with a love like that. It lights up the whole sky. - Hafez
Thank you, Tammy. Now, it's time for the KELLY REHBORG PODCAST!
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ON TODAY'S SHOW ... we are honored to have Tammy's kid brother Tim, the Strength & Conditioning Coach of the World Series Champion Chicago Cubs, in the studio today.
TIM BUSS aka BUSSY
CHICAGO CUBS STRENGTH COACH
In case you've been living under a rock for the past decade and a half, and you don't know who Tim Buss is, perhaps you need a refresher. Click to read (but stay with us):
During the next half hour, you'll hear tantalizing tidbits of raw (and Rated-R*) storytelling. You'll enjoy hearing Brother & Sister catch up on old times, sharing stories from their past. You'll hear Dave, Tammy & Tim pay tribute to the late, great Gregg Allman.
Be sure to stick around to the very end to learn what Tim's favorite movie and most quoted line is. As you can imagine, it's a natural classic.
Finally, learn what Makes Tim Tick on & off the field, Tim's favorite ballpark song, his favorite wine, and witness as Tim discovers San Diego's own Saint Archer Beer, as evidenced in this quote:
Side Note: What began as a podcast (as found in the Podcasts Menu), turned into a real "Walk Down Memory Lane," as we celebrated our World Series Champion Chicago Cubs all over again.
THANK YOU, TIM for taking time from your tremendously busy schedule to spend with your family. In a very short time, I have find you to be an awesome talent, a genuine man of your word, whose love for family and work is an inspiration to many. I'm grateful to call you brother.
Now, let's get on with the show!
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One of the sweetest moments of watching the Cubs win the series was the phone conversations going on between Tammy, her Aunt Kathy and Momma Karen. Don't let it distract you, because it's precious and well worth the attention. After all, these girls have been Cub fans for decades!
As I sign off today, I realize I've left you with a good deal of media. But I've also let you peek inside my world ... to my love (Tammy), my brother-in-law-equivalent (Tim) and our World Series Champions (Cubs).
I'm a grateful man, blessed with a good life, the perfect partner, wonderful family & friends, and talents that allow me to pull together a wide assortment of media in order to tell some pretty awesome stories.
Thanks for stopping by.
His reputation expands faster than the universe. He once had an awkward moment just to see how it feels.Tim Buss is one of the most interesting men in the world...as far as we know.
"I don't drink beer every day," Tim says, "but when I do, I enjoy Budweiser. Stay a Cubs Fan, my friends."
No beer was hurt in the making of this podcast & the *Rated-R material is all in fun.
Coincidences are an oddity, no matter who you are, or from what perspective you view them. What do I mean by this? While these sorts of things happen to me nearly on a weekly basis, allow me to share just one such occurrence today.
I'm in my writing loft this beautiful Wednesday afternoon, working on my newest novel #SeductionAtDaybreak, when I come to a scene around Chapter 25 (about 38,000 words in). In the story, I reference a "random" slice of history: The Rodney King Riots.
What makes this so interesting to me are two facts:
First: I was living in LA at that time, working for The Westwood One Radio Network. That afternoon, I was in a studio overlooking downtown LA when the riots broke out. I'll never forget it as long as I live. I was working alongside my pals, Tony Scott (rock 'n roll DJ legend), Katherine Brown (best female pipes in the biz), and Mark Maurer (the Grandaddy of Rock Radio Station ID's). We were spinning our craft for our boss, Chris Kampmeier (best boss ever). I recall looking out the window of the CNN Tower (Cahuenga & Sunset: CLICK-4-MAP), when black plumes of smoke & fire sprouted up all over the downtown area and South Central. We were all wrapped up in the insanity, but I'll never forget seeing Maurer enter the studios geared up with a 9mm on his hip and an AK-47 over his shoulder. How times have changed. It was some Crazy S#!T.
Now, for the other coincidence.
Second: In the scene I was writing, my main character (protagonist), Detective Pat Norelli is speaking with her father, the Honorable Judge Samuel Norelli. They're discussing a sensitive situation that only the two of them know about, when a reference is made to those very same Riots in 1992. It struck me as funny how out of the clear blue, I make that reference (which I had not premeditated), and here we are commemorating (certainly not celebrating), the LA Riots.
Now, for the fun of it, care to take a sneak peek into that scene? The one I'm writing, not the riots.
After The Judge’s big reveal, it didn’t take long for us to wrap things up. We discussed our timeline, the access to the tightly guarded materials in the evidence locker, and the manner in which said items would need to be relocated. The exact location was nearly impossible to crack, given the heft and severity of the case. The only saving grace, as it pertained to my delicate situation, was that while LA’s number one mob boss, Nicholas “Nicky The Crusher” Michelini, was preparing for a trip north to a new home where he’d spend the rest of his days in America’s premiere maximum security prison, the evidence was still under our roof. That roof covered the room which was downtown in the primary headquarters of the Los Angeles Police Department. It wasn’t Fort Knox, but due to the size of our city, the sheer volume of evidence we acquired on a weekly basis—not the mention the potential for breach if there were anything like the Rodney King riots again, it was going to be next to impossible to access without any number of hoops to jump through. And given I was neither part of the team who brought him down, nor any piece of the puzzle that would orchestrate his heavily guarded transfer, my mission was doubly precarious.
-from Seduction At Daybreak (Summer, 2017)
Back to the reason for today's post: Coincidences. Do you believe they're just that? Are they orchestrated by God, the Universe, the Collective Conscious, Your Higher Self, or just Plain Random?
Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous. -Albert Einstein
Okay, that's what my mind was spinning today. If you've got a particularly interesting coincidence, I'd love for you to share. And if you have a friend you think would find it interesting, please share this blog post.
Until next time,
I recall as a child my parents saying the phrase:
It never meant much to an impatient, gotta-have-it-all-right-now teenager. But now, years ... uh, let's make that decades later, it means a great deal.
It's funny; just this morning, while walking back from Lotus (a truly superb health-food, vegan restaurant & juice-bar in Encinitas), Tammy and I were talking about this very thing before reading the Abraham post that follows.
We were discussing how one of the comforting things about growing older is the fact we're not in as much of a hurry to do, or accomplish, or win over something. That if we'll just let it happen, it so often ends up so much better. And nearly every single time.
Some things you're not letting happen right now because the timing isn't perfect for you. Some you're not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are. But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order. And if you will relax and begin saying, "Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I'm enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I'm going. Content where I am, and eager for more," that is the perfect vibrational stance. -Abraham
Isn't it interesting, the thought process wasn't: If you'll really push hard ... If you'll take control and force the issue ... If you'll take the bull by the horns ... If you'll keep riding it ...
No, it said: If you will relax and begin saying, Everything in perfect time. And if you'll ENJOY where you are now. And, if you'll be CONTENT where you are, THEN you'll find what you're searching for.
Simple? Yes. Simplistic? Not really. Understandable? I think so. Doable? Positively yes!
I'd like to add just four gentle suggestions to help the process:
This works for me. And you know what? Is there ever (really) anything you can do to "make things happen?" Not exactly; sure, you can get a result, and you can often get your way, but at the end of the situation, is it the best that it could have been?
That's my two cents for a Monday. Why not give it a try? And let me know how things turned out for you; I'll share the same.
Until then, remember ...
On Today's Podcast, Dave + Tammy discuss a wide gamut of topics from frivolous favorite Cocktails to pontificating politically upon Sean Spicer, Bashar Al-Assad and Kim Jong Un. We also discuss some of our local favorite hot-spots to include: Seaside Market in Cardiff By The Sea and Lazy Acres Markets in Encinitas. One of our favorite pastimes includes binge-watching television shows. Several that we particularly enjoy: Game of Thrones, Longmire, House of Cards, and the more recent Ballers, Billions and Big Little Lies. We wrap the show with special guest and the talented Astrud Gilberto, performing one of my favorite songs, The Girl From Ipanema (thanks, youtube). On a future show, I'll share my "two-degrees of separation" from her friend, Stan Getz (another favorite musician).
Kick back and enjoy a fun little cerebral romp with Dave + Tammy and remember, if you'd like to be on our show, just reach out with a message. We'd love to have you!
Until then ... ice your cocktails & supercharge your dreams.
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