I am drawn to people who base their lives upon integrity; it seems to have become a lost art.
There are many people who will tell you their lives are built upon integrity; others, will pontificate about the ways in which they lead their lives or businesses based on a foundation of integrity.
Merriam-Webster says the following:
INCORRUPTIBILITY. Imagine if our government and city leaders held themselves to a level of integrity, whereby they were "incapable of corruption," or "not subject to decay," or, "incapable of being morally corrupted." What a different place this world would be.
SOUNDNESS: Imagine if our brokers, bankers & bellowing politicians were "free from error, fallacy, or misapprehension," and were "legally & logically valid, exhibiting knowledge and experience." What a refreshing voice they would have, and one we would listen to.
COMPLETENESS: Imagine if our friends & family and neighbors & naysayers were "coming from a place of wholeness, honesty and integrity." What a sense of calm that would provide.
And yet, day after day and year after year, people walk through their lives with a false sense of integrity, lying through shifting eyes, telling half-truths via twitching lips, and re-directing inquiries only to confuse and disorient, all the while spinning facts, both real and artificial, trying with all their might to make them stick, forming a pseudo-reality, with the hopes of getting their way.
Wouldn't it be easier to simply come from a place of truth, from the beginning? Remember a time when you would say, or hear someone say,
"C'mon, just blurt it out; it's better to hear the truth and be hurt then suffer the pain of false hope."
Maybe I'm writing out loud about my former dating life. But, it's true.
WHY THE TOPIC OF INTEGRITY?
Perhaps it's coming from watching President Trump last night. His "State of the Union meets Speaking to Congress" Speech was at one moment encouraging and thought-provoking, while at another, oddly charming, somewhat inspiring, and yet much-too-smooth.
My biggest reason for sounded like a Negative Nancy is only because Trump pulled a complete 180 from his campaign speeches; so much so I nearly got whiplash trying to decipher who the man was in the pulpit, I mean, podium, preaching about, I mean, pontificating about all that he's done in "the shortest amount of time in office of any President in the history of the world."
Okay, I'm a bitch.
Don't get me wrong; I want to like our President, I wish great things from our President, and I plan to support our President. However, after suffering his daily, often mindless, and somewhat childlike bickering [primarily via Twitter], I hope you won't hold it against me if I'm more than just a wee bit skeptical about the integrity upon which he is basing both his presidency, and the validity of his mission at hand.
Do I want (much of) what he's selling? Yes. Do I believe his mind (and heart) is in the right place? Uh. Hm. Well, let me get back to you on that.
What I DO know and CAN say with definitiveness and specificity is this: We MUST support, to the best of our ability those whom we have elected into office -- until said time it either becomes dangerous to do so, leads millions of people toward a place that will harm/burn/mislead them, or act in ways that are ANTI-American.
Enough soapbox. I began discussing integrity, because I HOPE, want, and NEED to see MORE of it on a DAILY basis EVERY day!
I believe we need to act in ways that "adhere to a code of moral values" whereby nearly everyone wins, almost everyone gets most of what they need, and everyone is respected for who they are.
Don't hustle. Don't misrepresent. Don't steal. Don't compromise. And don't lie.
DO come from peace. DO act with honor. DO support the majority of the collective good. DO the best you can. And DO so with INTEGRITY.
FTR (for the record): I liked and admired President Trump's speech. And I anxiously await to see how much of it he will carry out to the betterment of the America we love and call home.