goals

FOLLOW YOUR OWN DREAM

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”      

This is one of my favorite quotes, by the brilliant entrepreneur, designer, builder, content-creator and genius Steven Paul "Steve" Jobs, Apple Founder.

Born 2/24/1955, he lived a full life until cancer took him 10/5/2011, at the young age of 56. 

Shit. 56. The same age my father died.

The same age I feared (for way too long) I would die.

I've never admitted that before; especially not publicly. And while there's no reason to (logically) believe I would die then, I (like my older sister, Kay) felt that If we can just make it to that year, we'll be good. Now, rapidly approaching that landmark, I will have passed it by 2 years.

While I don't have near the accomplishments that marked Steve's illustrious life, I have done a great deal. I've been a Radio Host, a national Voiceover talent, a lounge DJ, a TV anchor, a national correspondent, a features reporter, a QVC Host, a Sales Rep, a Marketing specialist, and a Videographer/Editor.

I am also a published author of six novels and working on my seventh. I am an award-winning filmmaker of a commercial feature, Chasing Grace, and three short films. I'm a media content developer and marketing strategist for a small group of companies, as well as a web designer & developer, which began as a hobby and developed into a small cottage business (I built this site and all the contain herein).

Since beginning a career in broadcasting (at the age of 17), I set as a goal, climbed the ladder and skyrocketed to enormous success in radio. Broadcasting Morning Shows first in my childhood hometown of Lynchburg, VA, I quickly moved to Norfolk, before "getting discovered" and moving to Detroit, then to Chicago, and then to Los Angeles, before hitting the PEAK of my radio career, working in New York, before heading "back home" to Charlotte, NC, where I finished my handsome career alongside my family.

I accomplished ALL the dreams in radio I had ever envisioned: I wanted to work in at least 5 of the Top 10 Radio Markets before I reach 40. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

As a young boy, I recall hearing an announcer on a nationally televised broadcast on Disney, and thought THAT IS WHAT I WANT TO DO. Listening to AM Radio on stations out of Chicago (WLS), I knew given I had a "radio voice" (at a super young age), along with the ability to think fast on my feet, make people laugh, enjoyed music of all flavors and loved to tell stories, Radio Was Going To Be The Profession For Me.

What's the moral of this post?

FOLLOW YOUR OWN DREAM

Steve Jobs was a guy who GOT IT. He marched to the beat of his own drum, chose a profession HE wanted and chased it. He threw caution to the wind, pursued, fought, created and never quit. 

It's the same with you.

YOU CAN HAVE WHATEVER YOU WANT, IF YOU WANT IT ENOUGH.

Jobs was a co-founder, chairman and CEO of Apple Inc (the first stock I ever bought). He was majority shareholder in Pixar, member of The Walt Disney Company's board of directors, and Founder, Chairman and CEO of NeXT. He was a husband, father and friend to many.

Did he get all that experience by accident? No. Did he accomplish all that success randomly? No. Did he have it all fall in his lap? No. Was it all smooth sailing? No. He saw, dreamed, pursued, fought, and worked his ass off to make his dreams come true. And while there are some who speculate he "worked himself to death," he certainly finished his life his way. Now, I'm not saying he chose to die from cancer, but I can't help but intuit that he must have known his great success could come at a great cost. 

As I wrap up this Hump Day Inspiration, I leave you with something I read yesterday. It comes from the teachings of Abraham, the collective conscious, not the character from the Bible.

When you are comfortable on your path, it doesn’t matter where it leads.

There's a great deal of truth there. Be comfortable with your path. Follow your dream. Where it leads is YOUR doing. YOU are in control.

Remember, as Steve implored of us: Your time is limited. Don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't live according to other people's thinking. Don't let others' opinions drown your inner voice. Have courage to follow your heart & intuition.

I'll leave you with something I've said to Tammy since the day we met and fell in love: 

Let's run with reckless abandon toward life's diving board and spring into the unknown, trusting there will be enough water to hold and support us.

Cheers!

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So what if I'm late to the New Year's Resolution Party

SO WHAT IF I'M LATE TO THE NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION PARTY

Okay, so I didn't jump aboard the "Resolution Bandwagon" when the ball dropped, issuing in 2017. Why? Basically because I've learned it's too much pressure to create completely new habits to start on the first day of the year. It's kinda silly, don't you agree?

What's my solution? I wait until somewhere around the second weekend. And given this weekend is FRIDAY THE 13TH (insert horror movie screams here), it will be my Jumping Off Point.

What are my resolutions? Simple; there are only 3. Because it seems like a number I can manage.

1. Do some SOME SORT OF EXERCISE every day.

I don't mean a marathon every day. But I don't mean one sit-up, either. I mean, something along the lines of No Less Than 15 minutes, likely around 30 minutes, and 45 could be ideal. This way, even if the only thing I do is walk Dexter once or twice a day, then I've accomplished my goal. And the way I see it, as well as Dexter sees it, it's a Win-Win.

2. Be conscious every day to BE KIND toward my fellow man.

That doesn't mean I have to be a pus, a wimp, or a liar. But I do have to consider kindness as my starting point. If we all thought about being kind as our first reaction, we'd have less violence, less deaths, less stress, less anger, less weight gain, less anxiety, we'd rely less on drugs, booze and crap food. At least I think we would. Anyway, I'm going to start here.

3. Do something OUT OF THE ORDINARY every week healthy.

You know, something healthy, positive and/or enjoyable. Something we don't ordinarily do every week, or in the same way. Wouldn't that be cool; to try on a new habit for size? It may be something like: reading an article, periodical, or book I don't ordinarily read, visiting a new restaurant serving a type of food I don't regularly eat, travel to work or play on a different route, just for the heck of it. Maybe I'll call a friend I haven't spoken to in a long time. In these days of texting & emails, it's nice to think about picking up the phone and chatting even for 10 minutes.

BOTTOM LINE: I figure if I can do THESE 3 THINGS for the next 11 & 1/2 months, I'll have a vibrant and refreshing way to look at life.

As Tammy and I face yet another move to a new city [SAN DIEGO, HERE WE COME], we've agreed to form a new mindset, as to: (a) how we choose friends, (b) how we do business, and (c) how we manage situations arising in ways that may or may not be of our creation.

This new mindset came to me, thanks to a blog I read recently by Benjamin Hardy.

“From this point, your strategy is to make everyone else get on your level, you’re not going down to theirs. You’re not competing with anyone else, ever again. They’re going to have to compete with you. From now on, the end result is all that matters.” —Tim Grover

I like that, don't you? Set Your Goals. Make New Boundaries. Push Hard To Win.

As for the NEW YEAR, Tammy and I Are Making Choices As To How [Jobs, Friends, Dates, Projects, Schedules, Parties, Etc.] Best Fits Our Lives.

Moving forward, BE KIND TO YOURSELF, pace the day/week/month with reachable goals that feel attainable, until you get to the point where you say, PUSH YOURSELF, DAMMIT! You'll be fine.

Happy First Friday the 13th of The New Year!